9 Ways to Support the Mom of a New Baby
Having a baby is a major life event and definitely one to celebrate. Having had 3 of my own, I’ve been in different scenarios with each and every one. I’ve lived close to family and then far away from family. I’ve felt a range of emotions that, I’m sure, every mom feels in that postpartum time of life. Thankfully, I’ve been given the gift of a husband (and best friend) who’s been there to support me physically, mentally, and emotionally through all of it. Becoming a mom for the third time, I’ve also been fortunate to have a teen and an 8 year old who adore their baby brother to pieces. While we may not have family close by, we’ve been there for each other, and I’ve learned a few things over the years.
There are so many ways to support a new mom. Maybe you have a friend or family member expecting a new bundle of joy. The key to supporting that new mom (or dad)? Just be there. It’s really as simple as that.
If you want more specific ways, here are 9 practical ways to support the new parent in your life…
1. Give the family space after the baby’s born. Give them time to just be with each other as they adjust to having a new baby in the house. Give Mom time to recover. It can be an adjustment adding a new member to the family, not to mention recovering from childbirth. If you’re bound and determined to visit, just make sure you call first; and don’t be offended if they’re not ready.
2. Send a thoughtful, hand-written card. Trust me, everyone will be texting asking about that sweet baby. A hand-written card or note showing you care makes all the difference in the world. It may brighten an otherwise difficult day when the baby’s screaming and nothing’s gone right.
3. Ask her how she’s doing, and be prepared to listen. Don’t just ask for the sake of asking. Genuinely ask her how she’s feeling. Postpartum recovery isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. For a mom who’s feeling the blues, she may be reluctant to talk about it. Let her know she’s not alone.
4. Don’t visit while sick. This should be a no-brainer, but sadly, it’s not. Don’t visit if you’re sick, if your kids are sick, etc. Just don’t.
5. Help around the house. Ask her what needs done, and give an hour of your time. Maybe you could fold laundry or do a load of dishes… Or better yet, clean a toilet or two. I know, I know, it’s a dirty job, but somebody’s gotta do it, and what’s better than not having to clean the toilets? She’ll love you for it.
6. Take her a meal. Whether it’s home-cooked or even a couple of pizzas, give her (or Dad) the night off from having to cook.
7. Help her with the kids. Maybe you come over and take them all outside to play or go for a walk, so Mom can rest a bit while baby rests. Maybe you offer to watch the baby, so she can grab a nice, long soak in the tub. Be creative and think of ways that’ll help keep kids busy and give Mom a bit of a break at the same time.
8. Meet her for lunch. Sometimes all a new mom needs is a quick getaway for lunch where she can chat with a friend and walk away feeling refreshed. Laughter and a heart-to-heart with a good friend can do wonders for a new mom’s soul.
9. Run errands with her or for her. Ask her where she needs to go or what she needs to do. Take her to the library, the craft store, or maybe even the grocery store.
Again, the key to supporting that new mom (and dad) is to just be there. Let them know you’re there. Sometimes even just the offer of help is better than anything else you could ever do. It speaks volumes when a friend or family member lets you know they’re there.